Starting a conversation with someone who is dying
It can feel awkward to approach the topic of funeral plans with someone who is dying, but discussing their funeral plans and finances is important and it can actually give them peace of mind during their final days.
Asking about their funeral plans
As sad as it may be, remember to approach any conversations openly. Try and make the conversation as comfortable as possible for your loved one. Gather their thoughts and gently ask simple questions.
Be prepared that you might both become emotional, which is normal and expected.
Some of the questions you might want to consider are:
- Burial or cremation? Some people will have a preference.
- Would they prefer a traditional funeral or celebration of life?
- What type of wake might they prefer?
- Where should the funeral be held?
- If they have chosen cremation, where should ashes be buried or scattered?
The details of the funeral aren’t the only thing you need to consider when someone is dying. Once you have an understanding of your loved ones wishes, there are other important matter to discuss too, such as as finances.
Whilst discussing the details of the funeral can bed sad, talking about the finances of the funeral can be just as difficult.
In 2020, 63% of people made financial provisions before they passed away. But only 64% of these people made provisions that were enough to cover the cost of the whole funeral. This means that loved ones may have had to pay for the rest.
It's important to find out from your loved ones what provisions, if any, have been made for the funeral costs. Finding out this information will give the family a starting point, and will make things easier to manage when the time comes.