Talking about death isn’t easy, but it is one of the most important conversations we can have. During Dying Matters Week, a national initiative encouraging open conversations about death, we’re highlighting an often misunderstood topic: direct cremation.

Despite the growing popularity of direct cremations, many people are unsure on how to bring it up with family and friends. Especially when emotions are high or when the subject feels taboo.

Understanding Direct Cremation

A direct cremation is a simple, no-fuss alternative to a traditional funeral service. It offers families the flexibility to remember their loved ones in their own way and on their own time.

For a direct cremation, there is no viewing, wake or formal service. It is an unattended funeral service. Instead, the body is cremated shortly after death and the ashes are returned to the family.

Why choose direct cremation?

Direct cremations have risen in popularity, especially over the last five years, from only 3% of people choosing them, in 2019, to 20% in 2024.

This rise in popularity started because of the pandemic, but has continued to rise for many reasons:

  • Simplicity
  • Cost-effectiveness
  • Personalised remembrance
  • Environmental considerations
  • Changing of social norms
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How to start the conversation

One or many of the reasons for choosing a direct cremation over a traditional funeral may resonate with you but it can be difficult to express these feelings to your loved ones.

Talking about death can stir up a lot of emotions and it’s natural to worry about how your family or friends will react. They might have different expectations or feel uncertain about something that doesn’t follow familiar traditions. That’s why it helps to approach the conversation with openness and reassurance.

Choose the right time and setting

Starting the conversation at the right time and in a comfortable setting is just as important as the words you choose. Talking about end of life wishes deserves a moment when everyone can be calm and free from distractions.

Look for a quiet, private environment where you and your loved ones feel emotionally safe. This might be over a cup of tea at home, during a peaceful walk or after a meaningful moment that naturally leads to reflection.

If you're finding it hard to bring up the topic, try starting gently. You could refer to a recent event, article, or a national awareness initiative like Dying Matters Week. This helps frame the conversation as part of a wider, thoughtful consideration.

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Explain your reasons clearly

When you are ready to talk, begin by calmly explaining why you are considering a direct cremation. Being open and honest about your reasons can help loved ones understand that this choice has come from a place of thoughtfulness.

You might say that a direct cremation feels right for you because:

  • It’s simpler and less stressful for loved ones. Removing the pressure to plan a funeral gives family and friends space to grieve. It allows them to remember their loved one in their own way.
  • It’s more cost-effective. Funerals can be expensive. Choosing a direct cremation can take away the financial burden of those left behind.
  • It allows for a more personal memorial. You may prefer a celebration of life or a private gathering that feels more meaningful than a formal service.

By being clear and gentle, you can let your loved ones know that this choice reflects your personal values and wishes.

Listen and acknowledge family concerns and emotions

Encouraging questions and conversation can help make your choice for a direct cremation a shared understanding, rather than a one-sided decision. It can help your loved ones feel part of the decision, rather than being caught off guard.

Acknowledging your loved one’s emotions doesn’t mean you have to change your decision. You can reassure them that you have made your choice thoughtfully and that it reflects your personal values.

By keeping the conversation open, honest and respectful you can create an opportunity for understanding and connection, and ultimately support. Often, once their emotions have settled, loved ones are more willing to respect your wishes when they feel heard and included.

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Respect religious and cultural traditions

Religious and cultural traditions are often the reason why people object to direct cremations. For many families, rituals around death and mourning hold deep meaning. They offer comfort, structure and a sense of continuity across generations.

If you know your choice may go against your family’s beliefs or customs, approach the conversation with sensitivity. Acknowledge the importance of these traditions and express that your decision isn’t meant to dismiss or disrespect them. But rather to reflect your own values and preferences.

It may help to explain that a direct cremation doesn’t prevent your loved ones from holding a meaningful or religious ceremony afterward. Being open to compromise can help respect their traditions. Discussing how elements of those traditions could be included in a memorial service after the cremation allows you to honour them while staying true to your wishes.

Discuss costs and practical considerations

Costs and practical considerations are one of the main reasons why so many people are now choosing to have a direct cremation over a traditional funeral.

Direct cremation is typically much less expensive as it removes many of the higher-cost elements of a traditional funeral.

When sharing your decision, try not to focus only on saving money. Emphasise how it can ease stress and reduce the financial burden on your loved ones.

Being open about the realities of cost can remove some of the emotional weight and bring clarity to the conversation. Especially if your goal is to be financially responsible and considerate to those you’ll one day leave behind.

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Provide information and resources

Sharing helpful resources can support the process of your loved ones understanding what a direct cremation is and your reasons for choosing one.

<pReliable, straightforward information can help answer any questions they may have, ease concerns and reduce the fear of the unknown.

Give time and space for reflection

After you have shared your thoughts and reasons, it is important to give your loved ones’ time to process everything. Talking about end-of-life choices can be emotional, and people may need space to reflect before they fully understand or accept your decision.

Let your loved ones know that you are open to continuing the conversation when they are ready. Your willingness to talk and listen can turn a difficult discussion into a meaningful step towards a shared understanding and peace of mind.

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Plan a direct cremation with Celebration of Life

If you need any further advice on this topic or are looking to arrange a direct cremation, get in touch with our expert team today.

 At Celebration of Life, we offer one of the UK’s lowest-price simple and fully inclusive direct cremations, both pre-paid and at-need. We’re available 24/7, whenever you need us, and more than happy to help. If you’re looking for an affordable and fuss-free direct cremation service, contact us at Celebration of Life today. As a direct cremation provider, we’re always happy to help.